Twice The Avice
Kerry Donelli and Jacqueline
Issue date: 11/23/09 Section: News
Dear Twins,
I have been single for 5 years now. I am 40 and I date here and there, only sometimes. I am very attractive, in great shape, and back in school. I don't know why I'm not gobbled up, to be honest with ya. I'm just not into the guys that I've dated. I "break it off" when we are a date or two in. Should I just keep dating these guys even though I'm not interested?
Signed, Sexy and Still Single
Dear Single,
I hate to be an old fart and say this, but if it's really important for you to meet someone now, you have to make it a mission. It's kind of like trying to sort of lose weight. You either go for it or you don't. If you "sort of" go for it, you can expect to add another five years to your single record. So try this out for size: for six months say "yes" to every social engagement. Join two internet dating sites and give the guys you don't think you like a second chance. In six months, I bet you'll have found yourself a boyfriend that you truly dig. Don't forget to invite me to the wedding.
Dear Sexy
I disagree with Jacqueline. By making it "a mission" you will take all the fun out of the journey and it'll become yet another stressful chore. I also absolutely don't think you should date men you are clearly not interested in. That will be even more unbearable and counterproductive. By now, you should be able to trust yourself as to whether you are attracted to someone or not. That said, it doesn't mean that I don't think you should give them a chance. The real problem is that you date men "here and there" and "only sometimes." Finding a mate is a numbers game. Simply put, the more you do it, the better chance you have of finding someone. Go out there and date more!
Dear Twins,
My boyfriend has a rough mouth that he doesn't mask in front of his kids. He's great in many ways, but that mouth. I know his kids can see that their father loves them despite it. I've mentioned it to him, and it's always ended in a blow out fight that they are "his kids." I feel bad for them, what can I do?
I have been single for 5 years now. I am 40 and I date here and there, only sometimes. I am very attractive, in great shape, and back in school. I don't know why I'm not gobbled up, to be honest with ya. I'm just not into the guys that I've dated. I "break it off" when we are a date or two in. Should I just keep dating these guys even though I'm not interested?
Signed, Sexy and Still Single
Dear Single,
I hate to be an old fart and say this, but if it's really important for you to meet someone now, you have to make it a mission. It's kind of like trying to sort of lose weight. You either go for it or you don't. If you "sort of" go for it, you can expect to add another five years to your single record. So try this out for size: for six months say "yes" to every social engagement. Join two internet dating sites and give the guys you don't think you like a second chance. In six months, I bet you'll have found yourself a boyfriend that you truly dig. Don't forget to invite me to the wedding.
Dear Sexy
I disagree with Jacqueline. By making it "a mission" you will take all the fun out of the journey and it'll become yet another stressful chore. I also absolutely don't think you should date men you are clearly not interested in. That will be even more unbearable and counterproductive. By now, you should be able to trust yourself as to whether you are attracted to someone or not. That said, it doesn't mean that I don't think you should give them a chance. The real problem is that you date men "here and there" and "only sometimes." Finding a mate is a numbers game. Simply put, the more you do it, the better chance you have of finding someone. Go out there and date more!
Dear Twins,
My boyfriend has a rough mouth that he doesn't mask in front of his kids. He's great in many ways, but that mouth. I know his kids can see that their father loves them despite it. I've mentioned it to him, and it's always ended in a blow out fight that they are "his kids." I feel bad for them, what can I do?
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